We all know death is lurking in the corner while we go for a walk, or a ride or a drive or sit in the middle of a meeting filled with unachieved targets and deadlines. Deadlines, did we say? Truly, what’s a deadline for life? Succeeding or failing? What matters when the time’s up?
“Remembering that I’ll be dead soon is the most important tool I’ve ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything—all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure—these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important.”-Steve Jobs.
There is something about failing. The world perceives failure or negativity with such contempt that failure may well be the most damned aspect of someone’s life. What’s so flawed about failing? Is it the feeling that man is immortal and can keep trying till the end of this earth to make things foolproof? Tough luck, really.
Positivity is something that we all believe is a ‘must-have’ quality and wear it on our sleeve. Nobody wants to come across as a failure. But then, think of this. Failure is something that teaches you that life isn’t all glitter and gold. In fact, it is the sheen that comes off even when the smallest of small plan goes awry.
Nothing helps you build resilience in life the way failure does. The dizzying heights of success can be misleading, but failure has a definite pattern for learning and getting further from there.
Lonely or introspecting?
Remember the saying ‘success has many fathers, but failure is an orphan’? No matter who said it, the statement sure has a bright side to it. Success is often misleading and you will never be able to put your finger on what worked at a particular time since it would be a combination of many things. But failure is something that sets the goal for you.
When you fail, think of it as an opportunity to introspect and examine things that you could have worked better with. Success never gives you time to pause and think, but failure does.
Introspection in the face of constructive perception of failure can work magic in any person’s life.
When you fail, don’t brood. It’s time to pause, think and start all over again.
Who is afraid of failure? It is those people who are worried about not being in the public face. People dread failure like they would fear a ghost or a zombie, both of those which are a matter of perception.
You see failure as a dark time, it is. But if you learn to see failure as a time to reflect and plan your path ahead it can turn into something more robust. Choice is yours.
World thinks failure is a loss of face. In reality, there is no such thing as that. Withdrawing into self is never bad, isn’t it? Just that instead of harbouring negativity, make sure you introspect, understand what went wrong and spring back again. Failure is the time when you actually understand who are your real friends. Wouldn’t you want to know what people think of you when you aren’t having a smooth sail, anyway?
Build strong support systems
When you fail, don’t snap at the world. It is an indication of things not being in the right order, or you not being prepared to hoist success in some manner. Have a set of friends who might guide you, pointing out your pitfalls to ensure you plan well next time over. Take your time to start again. Haste makes waste, haven’t you heard?
‘Learning’ is valuable
We would all agree the most precious thing in life is learning. Right? Failure is often an opportunity to learn something that you haven’t had the time for while you were busy racing towards success.
Challenges and failures are as perceptible as you make them. They are opportunities that come sometimes in life, creating space for you to pause, think and put another plan together. Failure isn’t despondency; it is an opportunity to stare long enough into the mirror that the answer surfaces sooner or later.